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Thanks, Kg, good points, especially finding what works for each kid, individually.

Also, going with the kid's balance. So, in that context, I'd not enourage much cooling down an overachiever. Rather, help such people find where what they have to offer can be well used, and how to balance so they don't neglect what's needed for good interactions with other people.

I expect your son already realizes he can't win everything, and deals reasonably well with this situation. If a student can't be the best in the class, let him try anyway. Perhaps he'll become the best in math or history or class President, or whatever.

Disappointment isn't the worst thing that can happen to a person, especially to a person who reacts to disappointments by working to overcome them.

I'm not a professional, perhaps others can add thoughts.

Dodge-ball is good. Preferably at least 4 skaters, up to many. Use a ball approximately 30 cm in diameter, although that can vary considerably. It should be solid enough to be able to be thrown several meters, but not so solid that a person could be truely hurt if hit in the face. It should be large enough to be best thrown with two hands, and only awkwardly with only one.

Generally the playing floor is the whole rink. If the ball goes off, let someone who isn't in the floor game throw it back on.

Generally no formal organization is needed, just let kids throw the ball at whomever they want. Some kids will be very aggressive, others will only participate if the ball comes close; that's OK. Some kids will play almost exclusively with friends; if that happens, ask an older leader kid to throw the ball ball to non-clique kids. Sometimes formal teams are better; other rules can be made if problems start to develop.

Various forms of tag games are popular, but I consider them dangerous; whenever people intend to touch each other on skates, coming from various directions, sometimes they accidentally come too close and collide.

Here's a game our neighborhood kids played on ice. I haven't seen it since, but it should work well on inlines. Sort of complicated, and definitely a group activity, but perhaps good if you have several skaters who are ready to move beyond the basics.

Playing field could be a rink floor, or a hockey court, or a parking lot with clear edge-of-play boundaries, enclosing a space the size of a hockey court, or bigger, up to twice as big or so.

Two teams, between 3 and 12 skaters, approximately, on each. Each team has a home base, basically a point, could be a specific mark on the skate floor, or a piece of tape, or a chair next to the floor. One team's home base is at one corner of the rink floor, the other team's home base is at the opposite end of the rink floor, directly (approximately) across from the first team's home base. Each team also has a prison, which is also a point somehow marked. Prisons are at the two corners of the rink floor not occupied by the home bases.

The objective of each team is to get all members of the opposing team into the prison. Team A tries to get everyone from Team B into A's prison, which is located on the same end of the floor as A's home base.

A skater must go to prison when they are touched by a skater from the other team who has touched home base more recently. So, when two skaters touch, the skater who has been away from home the longest must go to prison. So skaters are constantly circling, skating past home base to touch it then trying to get to an opponent who has been away from home longer, and before an opponent who touched home more recently can intervene.

A skater is freed from prison when he's touched by a team-mate (who isn't in prison).

Actually, the game is more complex. If one skater is touching home base, his whole body is part of home base. And if another skater is touching the one who is actually touching the original home base, then both skaters are home base. So what happens is that most of each team holds hands to form a chain stretching towards the center of the rink, to push their home base towards their opponents. The team whose extended home base is closest to the center of the floor has an advantage because those skaters can get to more of the floor more quickly than a team whose skaters must start from closer to the end of the floor. There is some strategy to decide exactly where to position the end of the chain, and when to send a skater who is at the end of the chain, to send that skater skating away towards the enemy. And, of course, if a skater in the center of the chain fails to maintain contact, such as because of a fall, then everyone in the chain beyond is no longer touching home and thus vulnerable to capture.

Similarly, the prison is extended by a hand-holding chain, if several skaters are in prison. I think if one skater is freed from prison, all are, but I don't remember that point clearly.

Perhaps you'd need a referee to decide which skater had been away from home the longest. But I don't recall that we ever had a ref; skaters know who has been away from home the longest, best to let them hold themselves responsible for the truth, rather than having a policeman who typically wouldn't know as well. Perhaps you'd need a "treasure" to motivate teams to send skaters away from home, but I don't recall we ever had that; taunting the other team was motivation enough.

Probably I've omitted a couple of key points that are obvious to me, so ask.